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Thursday, July 19, 2007

Miraculously, I have a short BF update

Remember when we last looked in on this story, BF was being help prisoner by BF's father in their house. No phone, no contact with the outside world, no computer. Total wall of silence. Which went on until this week, when the cell phone was returned to BF.

All the kids had been trying to reach BF, and when one finally got through, the news spread like wildfire. My kid called BT and they talked for quite some time. I also spoke briefly to BF.

BF's dad convinced BF that everything was BF's fault. Shocking! BF told me that the wall of silence was because BF 'shared too much information' with Love Interest. He also told BF that when CPS came to investigate they said that this was 'harassment' and that there was nothing wrong with the family. He told BF that the court ordered therapy for BF was terminated because BF was 'all better' after 3 sessions. All frigging better? What the fuck?

BF is still not allowed to see friends. The phone is the only method of communication. Love Interest was home from camp for a couple of days intersession, and BF spoke to LI using the subterfuge of 3-way calling so the call would not show up on BF's phone records, which Dad is watching like a hawk. BF is NOT ALLOWED to speak to LI, and LI is not allowed to speak to BF, which kinda makes this whole thing even more bizarre.

So what does BF do next? BF texts LI. Uh, can you say DUMB MOVE.

So far Dad does not know BF texted LI. But he will find out soon enough.

When I talked to BF, I told him/her that much of what his/her dad told BF was bullshit. CPS doesn't just drop an investigation as being harassment when more than one family complains. Therapists don't tell clients after 3 visits that they are 'all better'. BF heard what I was saying, but Dad has seriously screwed up this kid's mind. I set BF straight on the stuff I knew was falacious, like the "CPS went to a different state and entered LI's camp to speak to him." And I reinforced that BF's dad was texting threats to LI saying he was BF. BF didn't know much of what was happening during the enforced media ban.

The whole thing is so screwed up. We're just going to have to accept it the way it is for now, which goes against my grain. I want to fix this. The Girl wants to fix this. But there is nothing we can do if the Dad has agencies snowed. We just have to wait until Dad screws up big time, and make another move.

And we have to be thankful that BF is healthy and well and not beaten to a pulp in some garbage dump. Dad might be an asswipe, but he's keeping BF fed, clothed, and housed. That's a good thing.

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Blogger Robin said...

What a difficult situation :(. It must be so very hard to have to just sit back and watch. I'll be waiting and hoping for a good update right along with you.

19/7/07 2:18 PM  
Blogger Sechakecha said...

I'm glad that BF has someone like you, and your kids in their life to do what you can to help out. I think you are doing the right thing, trying to get in contact with them. =)

I hope things work out soon. Best of luck to you, and to BF.

19/7/07 2:24 PM  
Blogger Flutterby said...

Chances are he's not going to lay a hand on her at this point, knowing he's under suspicion. Even if CPS has backed off, all it would take is another flurry of phone calls if something happened. Hopefully anyway. Unfortunately, food clothing and shelter are all that's required by law. There's nothing that says you have to actually be nice to your kids. Of course if this was a pet we were talking about he'd probably be in jail by now.

19/7/07 5:02 PM  
Blogger utenzi said...

It's a relief to know that BF is healthy--esp since it appeared early on that she was probably not with us anymore. It's a damn shame all that emotional crap is going on...

21/7/07 2:01 PM  

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